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I just turned 17 years old in November, i have a son who was born on the 29th (Madden) well my Mother didn't kick me out or anything like that but she was not helpful nor supportive and i didn't want to live in a home where i don't really feel welcomed, so i moved out and i had my Dad cosign for me to get a house. Well everything was pretty alright, my mom called me everyday and we talked and she even bought Madden 2 new outfits and a bouncer, i thought our relationship was building back up. WRONG! On December 29th 2011, Madden was born, My mother wasn't there, this didn't really bother me, but my little brothers deserve to see me and their nephew, so i called and i asked why she didn't show up to see her grandson, she said she was busy and for me to come over on the way home so she could see Madden. So on the 30th we stopped by on the way home, we got there at about 8:30 at night, my mother told me that it was fine for Madden to visit but only when the boys are in school, she said she doesn't want them around him or me at all because we are bad influences on the boys. Okay, for one, my brothers are 3 and 4, neither one of them are even in school, for two, Madden's father and i were together for 4 years before we had sex, the only reason Madden's father isn't in his life is because his parents won't pay for his schooling if he comes to see either me or Madden. I have had straight A's my ENTIRE life except right now i have 2 B's, i live in my own house, pay my own bills, work, and i go to school AND college ! I am VERY responsible ! && when she decided to go out and get DRUNK 3 and 4 nights a week, I watch Bentley and Greyson !!
Greyson, Bentley and Madden are my WORLD ! Does anyone know a way that i can get to spend time with Greyson and Bentley and for then to meet their nephew ? ALL help is appreciated ! Thanks (:
Thank you Ashli ! But i have tried to CALMLY explain all of this to my mother and she just won't listen ! It's killing me not being able to see Greyson and Bentley
My parents aren't divorced.
Thank you so much for all of your help Ashli, i can tell that you are really trying to help and it is greatly appreciated !

For one, I am very proud of you. You seem like you have all your ducks in a row, but i would just sit down with my mom and tell her how you feel, tell her that she can't change anything by being mean to you. and that your brothers don't even really know whats going on. they aren't gonna be influenced by you. at least not in a bad way. she should be proud of you for everything that you've done and how far you've gotten with the extra stress of a child and her on your back.

Do they see your dad at all? if so, go to your dads when they are there and you can see them there, your mom seems really stubborn, i would just tell her that they are your little brothers and you want to be in their lives as well as you want them to be in Madden's life. I mean she should let them, if she has a heart at all.

You're very welcome love, and I wish you the best of luck. (:

Oh my bad. Well have you talked to your dad about any of this then? He seems to be the better one in the situation because he cosigned for your house. Maybe he will listen and talk to your mom about it? I'm really trying to help you, because you seem like an awesome person and you know what you're doing in life and raising a child, i mean you'd think your mom would just get over it and help her daughter?

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That's the best way to go

you're right she is being unreasonable but maybe you should try and kill her with kindness. do what she says for like a week and shoe her how responsible you are and that you respect her. then ask her why you cant see your brothers and tell her that you really miss them. if she still doesn't listen, get your dad to help talk to her. i can't think of anything else...this is a hard one! i hope you convince your mom that you aren't a bad influence and i hope i helped in some way! good luck!!!!!!!

Wow that's a bit harsh for your own mother to say to you! Your brothers are wayy too young to know what's going on in your life! If there kept away from there sister that will confuse them because they don't know what you have done wrong.. Your mother sounds like a bitch aswell.. Just call in one day unannounced she can't do anything then.. Btw I love the name Madden good luck you sound like your going to be a good Mom anyway