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Hello everyone!
I would like to hopefully get some advice.
okay, so.

I met this guy at a bar, we clicked immediately, he's a great person.
He said he is a real estate Accounting operations manager.// I google's him and that is true all his info and profiles are online.

But this is the weird part. he always talks about money, cars, and clothing.
and not just any cars, he always is talking about bmw and that kinda stuff.
He kinda talks as if he's rich- about trips and people he knows that are wealthy.
But I got a brief view of his apartment while he had to get something - and although i'm not a judgmental snob or anything but, his apartment was very small and really cheap looking, but the thing is he lives in a swanky neighborhood. and when I say swanky i mean a wealthy part of town.
he had his shoes out and he had a couple different pairs they were all really used and worn looking.
he talks about how he leased all these different types of bmw's. But now he said he rides a scooter threw town. clothing is the same.

but he's the weird part, why would he talk about so material things but it appears that he doesn't have any of them, he always comes off as a wealthy guy.

Can someone please help me? - is he a huge liar that I think he is?

He's not a pathological liar. but he always talks about material stuff and it doesn't look like he has any of it.

another red flag- he was talking about giving his family Christmas gifts and then he said "i'll be eating peanut butter sandwiches for two weeks because of how much he spent, but you could take care of me ofcourse, right?"
I know that was a joke but do you think there was any meaning to it??


how much does someone who does his job make annually ?

Please guys I need some help, am I being lied to?

OMG HE'S A FUCKING LIAR! DON'T EVER TALK TO HIM! Oh god honey, I feel bad for you..you fell into the trap of my ex boyfriend. Oh god.

I have no clue how much a real estate Accounting operations manager makes annually.
The guy sounds like a douche. It's pretty obvious he's insecure so he's trying to compensate by sounding like he's got da moolah.
From what you've said I'd say erm..yes, you're being lied to

I'd get away from him, if I were you. I felt scared, honestly, when I was reading this.

He's trying to make you think he has lots of money and it's sort of working. It doesn't matter how much this guy makes because he'll never be wealthy. It sounds like he'll spend all his money on material things to keep up the perception that he makes a lot of money (and maybe he does). He'll never be wealthy because he doesn't keep any money. It's not how much money you make in your life that matters, it's how much of it you keep.

ummm, first red flag is you met him at a bar.

there was no meaning to the joke, it was funny. although ya he probably won't have money after christmas, that's pretty common. but think about it from this perspective....he's willing to spend his only money on gifts for other people, instead of buying the material stuff he talks about for himself.

see what imean? he seems to be good to me.

you seem like a bit of a gold digger to me. so what if he wants to be wealthy? his job salary depends entirely on if he does well or not.

and just because he tries to show that he has more money than he does...doesn't make him a bad person.

if he can pay for an apartment...why are you so negative towards him? he can obviously support himself. and you're worried about his worn shoes? you want way too much from a guy...

i wouldn't date you. nor would you date me. why? because i have a couple holes in my chuck taylors. but guess what? i love my shoes, and have newer ones, but i prefer the ones with holes. they are my favorite.

you sound like you want a wealthy guy that can support you and 1000 orphans. i'd say get over yourself and accept that the guy isn't living in mommy's basement. get real..

You need to get away from him, guys like that are never good! You could get in alot of trouble, so just leave him!

It is what he wants And he probably has had a bmw If you think he is not legit (like you need a slap in the head)
Then let him know your almost an alight guy but i think your a talking to much it is a turn off !

What is so attractive about a guy that goes on about money, cars and clothing? If his focus is on material stuff then why bother with this guy anymore? Depending on where this guy lives he should be making at least $50,000. What he has and how much he has isn't the issue. If he has a great personality, you two have fun and he treats you right then don't worry about it. If all he talks about is his money then politely ask him to stop. The best thing for you to do is talk to him about it.

He could be talking about cars, bmws etc..because those are probably what he dreams to have. But I know what you mean, it does sound a bit suspicious..just don't assume anything yet till you have anymore proof. Cut connections with this guy if you continue seeing more things..but for now continue dating him if you really like him.Do not trust him at all.